Friends, my name is Lee Goldstein, and I am posting this entry for the Kamida family. Evan suddenly and unexpectedly passed away this week. Feel free to contact me at my email: leegoldstein (@) yahoo.com
Information about Evan’s memorial service in L.A. will be posted next week.
ETA: Comnents are now closed on this post. Thank you all for your love and support.
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Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:39 am ¶I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with all of you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:55 am ¶sending you love
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:09 am ¶xo
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:20 am ¶Hugs.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:28 am ¶Sending love and hope for peace.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:31 am ¶my love and thoughts are with you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:35 am ¶Our thoughts are with you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:38 am ¶Love and hugs.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:39 am ¶sending love and many tears of grief.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:42 am ¶Our hearts are breaking for the unspeakable loss. Please let us know what we can do to help.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:46 am ¶My heart is with you. I’m so very sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:51 am ¶You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:03 am ¶i was coming to thank you for participating at blogher. now i am coming to thank you for sharing your life with evan with us.
i am so sorry for the sudden loss for your family. there are no words of comfort. just know that i understand this pain. all around you will be people willing to hold you up through this. let them.
all my love.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:06 am ¶You and your family are in our thoughts. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:08 am ¶So sorry, so very sorry! Thoughts and prayers and tears…
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:10 am ¶I am so very sorry. my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:14 am ¶sending love to all…
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:24 am ¶I’m so sorry. So sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:27 am ¶Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers at this time.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:49 am ¶Our thoughts are with you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:12 am ¶My prayers are with you in this difficult time. I am so so sorry for your loss.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:12 am ¶love & peace & hugs
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:19 am ¶We’re still praying for you all. ***HUGS***
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:21 am ¶My heart is breaking for and with yours… sending love. I’m with you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:44 am ¶I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying here.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:47 am ¶I am so very sorry. Sending love to you all.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:55 am ¶I’m so sorry. Please pass my condolences along to Josie as well.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:01 am ¶I am so very sorry. Our hearts are with you.
Jen
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:05 am ¶Thinking of your family, your daughter, your son, sending you love and affection, wishing you strength.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:13 am ¶I haven’t read your blog before, but Squid sent me over. My deepest fear. My thoughts and prayers are with you mama.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:43 am ¶I am so very sorry. My deepest condolences to you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:49 am ¶I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:57 am ¶I am so very sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:00 pm ¶My condolences ….
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:23 pm ¶I am so very sorry. There are no words.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:23 pm ¶I am so, so sorry. Sending love and hugs.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:30 pm ¶You and your family are in my thoughts. I’m so, so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:32 pm ¶I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and am thinking of you. This is so terrible and heartbreaking.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:33 pm ¶There aren’t enough tears in the world right now. I’m so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:35 pm ¶Nothing is harder.
Wishing you strength, support, and patience with yourself and others as you work through this enormous loss.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:40 pm ¶Reaching out to your family with love, honor, respect and a desire to help in any way I can.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:49 pm ¶what a heartbreaking loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:49 pm ¶Alonso, my family, and I send our love.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:52 pm ¶I am so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:55 pm ¶what could I possibly say to heal your pain?
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 12:59 pm ¶You are an extraordinary woman. You will do with your loss what you have done with the richness of experience he gave you. You will come back and help others to understand.
In his memory be strong. A mother’s love I send to you.
xx
I’m here, with love.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 1:02 pm ¶I will say a service, because it’s all that’s all that I can do.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 1:04 pm ¶There are no words.
I’m sorry isn’t enough…but it’s all I have to offer.
T.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 1:33 pm ¶Oh. I’m so sorry. I just want to say something, but I don’t know what. I’m so very sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 1:43 pm ¶Oh no.
Vicki and Cliff I am so sorry! Vicki I just read your birthday greeting on my Facebook page and thought I’d look in to see how things are…my thoughts are with you, Cliff and Josie.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 1:53 pm ¶My deepest prayers and sympathies…
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:06 pm ¶It seems awful for this to be the reason I finally comment, but it seems more awful not to let you know that I’m thinking of and praying for you and Evan and your family. My deepest condolences and cybersupport are yours.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:10 pm ¶The world is never so large as when one is happy and never so small as when one is in pain.
From one mother to another, love and blessings to you and your family.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:17 pm ¶I am heartbroken for you. I am so, so sorry for your loss. If there is anything at all in the world I can do for you, please let me know. Love to your family. I am so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:37 pm ¶Sending so much love to the entire family. Words are not enough here, in this little box, “T” is right (above).
I read Vicki’s essay about Evan last Sunday, in the new anthology — this was after getting the amazing opportunity to meet Vicki in S.F. last week, after years of emailing.
Vicki, thank you for allowing us — the world — to know Evan here. Thank you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:40 pm ¶With heavy hearts, we send you and your family all of our love and support at this very sad time. Evan is my hero and always will be……
Peace and love, Tara Marie
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:49 pm ¶my thoughts and prayers are with you
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 2:52 pm ¶You have been such an important support for me and so many others. Please take care and let us be there for you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 3:37 pm ¶I am so, so very sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 3:42 pm ¶Crying for your loss, the pain I cannot imagine, and wishing for a way to make it better. Know that you are being loved, prayed for, and thought of by many.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 3:44 pm ¶You have been in my constant thoughts and prayers. Much love, Kelly
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 4:22 pm ¶Vicki and Cliff,
Ellie, Evan, Josie, and you both are always in our hearts and on our minds.
– rebecca and shahen
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 4:32 pm ¶I’m so, so sorry for your loss. For our loss. The world’s. I didn’t get to come to your panel this weekend, but my friend Stimey has been telling me how absolutely wonderful you all were.
Much love to you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 4:58 pm ¶We’re with all of you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 5:12 pm ¶I am so shocked and so very sorry. Sending prayers and hugs.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 5:35 pm ¶I am so, so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 5:48 pm ¶Sincere sympathy.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 5:51 pm ¶Vicki, words simply fail. Evan will always be in my thoughts, and you in my prayers. Hugs from Denver, K.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 6:03 pm ¶Love and hugs for you and your family
Rita
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:20 pm ¶I am so sad to hear this. My deepest condolences.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:29 pm ¶I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:32 pm ¶I am so, so sorry for your lose. Thank you for sharing Evan with us.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 7:38 pm ¶My heart is breaking for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:18 pm ¶I’m here through Marla’s blog. She linked to a lovely post about Evan. I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with your family.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 8:32 pm ¶Evan, here at the Pacific Ocean tonight the waves were large and loud as the sun set, but the air was still and the sun glowed down into the west.
The air was still but the sand was shaking.
I have been thinking of you all, and Evan, with tenderness & compassion since Thursday.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:18 pm ¶I’m so sorry.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:31 pm ¶I am so very sorry for your loss. May you and your family find peace, love, and joy in the time you had and the memories that were made.
All hugs to you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:43 pm ¶I’m so very sorry.
love and prayers,
-Y
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:45 pm ¶This is sadly my first visit here, but I just wanted you to know that I am so sorry. I’m thinking of your family and sending thoughts and prayers out to you.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 9:56 pm ¶I don’t need to know you in person to feel your loss. I am sending you a tight, warm hug from me and my daughter, I just know your family will eventually find the strength you need. Much love, F-
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:06 pm ¶Sending love.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:08 pm ¶My deepest sympathies – there aren’t words for that. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:21 pm ¶Have not been here before, but came via Neil. I’m so sorry to hear this news. My prayers are with you and your family.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:32 pm ¶Please accept my sincerest condolences to you and your family.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 10:35 pm ¶my thoughts are prayers are with you
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:44 pm ¶B
Sending all love. You loved Evan so, so beautifully and well. I’m so sorry. xo S.
Posted 25 Jul 2008 at 11:56 pm ¶I’ve never read your blog, just your column at Literary Mama which was my favorite thing there. I’m so so sorry.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 1:46 am ¶I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you peace.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 3:49 am ¶so very sorry. Sending much love and condolences.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 3:59 am ¶I have only found your website today, searching to find connection with other mothers raising special needs kids. I have read several of your columns at Literary Mama and many entries here on your blog.
I feel for you and for your family, and will keep all of you — and Evan — in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 4:13 am ¶I am here through Aliki’s.
I am so very sorry. I have come to believe that there are no other words.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 7:01 am ¶Thank you for sharing your family’s story and your graceful words with us.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 8:07 am ¶You do not know me, but your son has touched my heart. Deepest sympathies to you and those who so deeply loved Evan.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 8:16 am ¶This is heartbreaking. I am so very sorry.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 8:38 am ¶My sympathies. Thinking of you and your family with warmest wishes for healing and comfort.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 8:41 am ¶all my love.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 8:55 am ¶I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 9:30 am ¶I am so sorry.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 9:34 am ¶Our condolences. May God wraps his arms around you for comfort.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 9:50 am ¶Susan told me this morning. I am so deeply sad for all of you. The anguish you feel must be overwhelming. The joy you felt for Evan will pull you through.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 11:36 am ¶Delurking to send my deepest sorrow for your loss. Words fail.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 12:30 pm ¶Many tears and prayers.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 12:37 pm ¶So very sorry for your loss, love and prayers to you and your family.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 12:38 pm ¶As the others are, I am sending my deepest sympathy.
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 2:04 pm ¶Dear Vicki:
This is one of Grace Talusan’s sister, Liza. I have silently followed your blog for a year now (commented maybe once), and have kept up with you through stories from Grace. Your stories as a parent have always inspired me, and your courage as a woman served as a foundation for me. My heart aches for you right now.
Peace to you,
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 2:39 pm ¶Liza
Shock and sadness… I’m so very sorry. So much love and support to you…
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 3:12 pm ¶To: Josie & family
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 3:36 pm ¶I’m sorry for your loss.
Oh, Lord. I’m so sorry.
Kim
Posted 26 Jul 2008 at 3:44 pm ¶